I must admit that in the height of grief, we made mistakes.  We handled things in a way that, looking back, seems almost ridiculous.  But in that moment, decisions made are not always the best, or even remotely like the decisions we would make if we were thinking clearly.  In our pain, we reacted without thinking.  Life does not generally prepare anyone to react logically and lovingly in the midst of incomparable sorrow.

We reacted badly to our daughter-in-law Stephanie’s hurt and pain in the loss of Rhys, and in doing so we made it worse.  But, in the midst of that we chose to leave this problem at the feet of Jesus.  I kept going back and picking it up, until Michael told me one day, “Just leave it there, Lynn!”  I had to actively seek God’s will in this matter.  When I finally let go, Jesus began a great work in me, helping to give me a new perspective and helping me understand what I was too stubborn and hurt to try to understand previously.  As I changed, Jesus began the work in Stephanie as well, and even in little London. (more…)