As the third year anniversary of Rhys’ death approaches, I reflect on the year as all of us do; mostly trying to see if we’ve made any difference in the world. We hear and read daily about all kinds of horrible things that happen in the world. We lament the path our country is taking and we wonder what comes next.

We measure the time in intervals since Rhys’ death, an artificial time line that creeps into everything we do. It is easy to get discouraged when the year ends and still the world trudges on a path of fear, hatred, and uncertainty. What are we doing? Where are we going? Can anyone make a difference? (more…)

I must admit that in the height of grief, we made mistakes.  We handled things in a way that, looking back, seems almost ridiculous.  But in that moment, decisions made are not always the best, or even remotely like the decisions we would make if we were thinking clearly.  In our pain, we reacted without thinking.  Life does not generally prepare anyone to react logically and lovingly in the midst of incomparable sorrow.

We reacted badly to our daughter-in-law Stephanie’s hurt and pain in the loss of Rhys, and in doing so we made it worse.  But, in the midst of that we chose to leave this problem at the feet of Jesus.  I kept going back and picking it up, until Michael told me one day, “Just leave it there, Lynn!”  I had to actively seek God’s will in this matter.  When I finally let go, Jesus began a great work in me, helping to give me a new perspective and helping me understand what I was too stubborn and hurt to try to understand previously.  As I changed, Jesus began the work in Stephanie as well, and even in little London. (more…)

The true adventures in my life have involved people, not just any people, but the people that leave lasting impressions.  You may never even meet some of them a second time, but you always remember them.  Michael and I met a wonderful couple, Paul and Jan, from England when we were on vacation last fall.  They are an amazing couple and the three days that we combined our journeys were some of the most fun we’ve had.  We trust that we will see them again, but even if we didn’t we would always remember them.

A journey through grief is also a kind of adventure and the people you meet on this journey are truly the kind of people you will remember forever.  In this journey some of the human race’s most endearing, gracious, and merciful qualities become real.  We have met amazing people on the journey through the aftermath of Rhys’ death. (more…)